Hi guys.. Welcome to the month of luuuuv! I’m excited to see what happens in 2 weeks I think? Lol..
Todays post is a sort of encouragement or maybe a mini vent session.. I’m talking about the thief of joy ‘COMPARISON’! I don’t think I’ve written this sort of post before but it occurred to me to put something down because someone may need to hear it.
I saw a post by a natural hair page on IG asking why people (who have) stopped caring for their hairj
and when I looked through the replies, what stood out or caught my attention was the fact that most people stopped caring for their hair because they had been comparing it with other people’s and when they weren’t satisfied, it just didn’t seem worth it to them. I read replies like ‘oh it wasn’t growing as long as I wanted it to’ ‘well it’s not as _____ as I had hoped’ etc. I quite understand that vibe, I do. But my issue with it was the comparison. What I feel is in life, there’ll always be people who are more ‘everything’ than you or have more this and that than you so knowing that, why haven’t you committed suicide? Lol.. Okay okay I know it’s not that serious but come on.
If you would start treating your hair like every other part of your body i.e. You have a pimple, you try to take care of it, you bruise a knee, you put a band aid on it, your hair is dry, you moisturize it then it will be simpler and easier to care for your hair regardless of the length. Someone who doesn’t feel she’s the prettiest can still have glowing skin yes? The same reason someone can retain 6 inches of growth in just 6 months is the same reason another person may not be able to retain more than 4 inches in the space of a year. Genetics my friends! So what to do? You need to know that it is just hair and the aim is to have it looking healthy and beautiful at all times.. If it grows to 1 million inches, we would celebrate start selling pills and oils to other people promising them heaven and earth. But if it doesn’t, then we would make sure that whatever length of hair is on our own head, we make sure it’s healthy and lovely.
I saw something the other day that said ‘No one is more beautiful than you on Instagram, they just have more apps’ lol.. So maybe the huge big Afro you’re lusting over isn’t really what it seems. Or maybe it is, that still doesn’t make yours less beautiful. Stop comparing.. Your hair goals, or anything else for that matter. Try to be the best you can be and celebrate other people too while you’re at it.
I hope this post made some sense. I typed and posted so please ignore any typos and stuff. Let me know in the comment section if there’s anything ‘natural hair related’ you’ll like to correct, vent about or just share.
Loads of luvvv… Ella